About

Here for the journey

Photo by Sam Wolsey

Hello there beautiful people!

A 3am friend is a person you do life with, a person to share the crazy journey with. The one you share your hopes and dreams with; can’t wait to tell the embarrassing stories to; silent laugh and ugly cry with; send memes to; the one who knows when you’re in a bad mood just by looking at you. When you have a crisis at 3am, they would be the first number you would call.

Welcome to The 3am Friend, I hope that this blog will become a little like one of those friends. There for you when you need it, for whatever reason. I hope this will be the place you can come to for advice, useful tips, inspiration, a laugh and community.

You can read more about The 3am Friend concept here on my first ever blog post!

What made me start a blog

When I became a mother, I took to instagram to find some mums and dads that I could follow and learn from, to laugh with and to reassure myself that I am not the only one suffering from a lack of sleep. Here was my introduction to bloggers and the blogging community. Real people sharing their hearts, thoughts, frustrations and wins.

I also like writing, and the truth is if you want to get better at something you should do it a lot. A lot, a lot. Pair that with a random selection of interests and a desire to help people and The 3am Friend was born.

The 3am Friend is all about being there for people. And so, let’s get to know each other a bit…

Get to know me

Photo by Epic Love Photography
  • My full name is: Rianna Jade Ivy, when I was little I hated my name and used to make everyone call me Ashley, I thankfully now love it.
  • Grew up in South East England.
  • I married a pretty epic guy calledĀ Nigel Ivy in 2010.
  • He’s a Zimbabwean born, South African citizen with a Belgian passport living in Northern Ireland married to an English woman!
  • We were 18 years old (and not pregnant) when we got married.
  • We have one son (for now) called Jaxon Hunter Ivy, entered the world in April 2017.
  • We currently live in Belfast, Northern Ireland (still part of the UK! *ehem Mum!)
  • I don’t have a university degree, I had nothing I felt I wanted to commit three years to and get in to that much debt for.
  • I am currently a stay at home mum.
  • My first job was at a Subway and my last job was as an Event Manager for a beautiful conferencing venue.
  • I have a GCSE and A Level in Dance because, ya know, why not? And I love it.
  • Haven’t danced since leaving school šŸ™
  • Desperately want a dog, but Nige has convinced me that it might not be the best idea with the amount of travelling we do.
  • I have a dog breeds app on my phone with my favourite breeds picked out for when the time finally comes.
  • I love to research, a lot. #Greatfulforgoogleandpinterest
  • I also like lists. I have many random notebooks filled with lists and scribbles as well as a list app and an iPhone notes app full of other lists.

My husband is a filmmaker & photographer, you should check out his website, youtube and plethora of social media accounts.

Thank you so much for taking the time to find out about the blog and about me, feel free to get in contact!